Why Modern Westernized Humans do not know what real love is

no for real love our original human culture required ALL males to train in "staying power" as spiritual healing. So every few years there was Tshoma - a month long dance training of only males - while fasting (just one liquid meal in the evening). And then every full moon the males dance all night long while the females sing. So also every time the males go hunting then there are 3 days of celibacy beforehand - to build up the N/om energy that then attracts the animals to be killed. Also for the male to get married then there are 3 YEARS required of the male living with the female's family and providing food for the female's family BEFORE the marriage is "consummated." So since we don't require this training of males then we don't know the real meaning of love. 

If you want to see this real love in action then watch Andrew Zimmern, the cable t.v. travel chef, bust out into tears. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FBFToDoxYX0  

Toward what I believed to be the end of the evening, Xaxe, a great hunter, healer,and shaman, laid hands on me....I felt the energy, his energy, surge through my body. He had his hands on me for about twenty-five or thirty seconds, but it felt like he had only touched me for a split second. Time stood still. I literally had a short out of body experience. I could see him touching me from just above my body, almost like I was floating six feet off the ground, watching myself. All of a sudden I was back in my body observing an image of him thumbing through the book that contained all the pictures and moments in my life. I saw images of my childhood I hadn't remembered in years, pictures of my mother and me walking on a beach and shelling, very strong images. At the time, both during his touch and immediately afterward, I described it as him flipping through the pages of my life....Later the next morning, I spoke with Xaxe about the trance dance. He told me he wanted access to me in a way that was not possible through a translator....Xaxe's curiosity was such a caring, loving gesture....When he detached from me it felt like someone was unplugging a lamp from a wall socket. As he let go of me and continued to dance around the fire, I spontaneously burst into uncontrollable tears....I had been stripped to my emotional core, completely stunned by what I had witnessed so up close and personal.  

Andrew Zimmern, The Bizarre Truth: how I walked out the door mouth first – and came back shaking my head (Random House, 2009), 234-5. So that is the real heart love - from the N/om energy of the Cosmic Mother.